The questions that bothers me immensely about happiness is, ‘how does one becomes happy?’. Don’t get me wrong I know how being happy feels like but it doesn’t seem to come as naturally to me as it seems to come to most of the people I know. I wish I could will it to my liking so won’t have to be experience down as much as I feel and maybe I won’t even be so depressed.
I see a few of friend going through the same stuff as I do and I am so lost for words when I try to console them because the things that people say to a person who is not going through the best time of their life are just plain stupid. ‘It gets better’, NO!!! It doesn’t. Things just don’t magically become alright. ‘It just a phase’, trust me it is not. You have no idea how it feels to live with it for the better half of your life.
According to my experience, there is only one solution. Now this solution might sound dramatic, cruel or just crazy. At first it might even be more painful than easy but trust be works. By works, I mean in a way that it would help you function in the world without looking like a crazy person.
The key is to fake it till you make it. Yes, this phrase may sound very idiotic but trust it is not. It has helped me somewhat overcome my battles. I get up every morning and look at myself in the mirror and just pretend to be happy. I try to smile the biggest smile there is. I try to see myself as a happy person and maybe at first I might have just started crying instead of being happy. But day by day it gets better. It gets less and less painful and voila! You have learned the art of pretending.